Finding Freedom, Sanity, & Healing After Covert Abuse--Micro-Retreat (February 2024)
Finding Freedom, Sanity, & Healing After Covert Abuse—Micro-retreat with Hilary
Sunday, February 18th, from 9A-5P
Location: Indwelling Community Room
Investment: $75
If you have ever been in a relationship with someone or ended a relationship with someone who exhibited abusive, avoidant, and narcissistic behavior, it can be extremely isolating and hard to know how exactly to move forward in your healing process. The layers are complex and often include coming to terms with not only the abuse, but also navigating past trauma, childhood conditioning, and a reckoning with our relational patterns—all whilst trying to heal from confusion, heartbreak, and trauma symptoms (and live our lives!).
Covert abuse expresses on a spectrum and could include:
Lack of empathy
Jealousy
Entitlement: feeling superior and deserving of special treatment while treating others with minimal regard
Unpredictable erratic moods: angry outbursts, yelling and swearing, name calling
The silent treatment: as punishment or to create pressure
Controlling behavior: manipulation or aggression
Inconsistency: hot and cold behavior—creating uncertainty, insecurity, and imbalance
Gas lighting and crazy making
Cheating and betrayal: seeking validation outside of the relationship
Future faking: weaponizing your desire to have a future with them, not following through on commitments, making promises they have no intention of keeping, creating the illusion of high investment
Love bombing: idealizing you, overwhelming you with adoration to gain power over you
Breadcrumbing: offering intermittent small morsels of attention or affection amidst the abuse
Blame-shifting: a belief that others are the cause of their behavior, getting upset with you for reacting to their mistreatment, inability to accept accountability, defensiveness
Sabotage
Discarding: emotional withdrawal, abrupt or cruel termination of the relationship
In this trauma conscious workshop, we will circle together and explore the recovery process of healing from covert abuse through body-based, depth psychological, and spiritual modalities in a holistic all-hands-on-deck approach.
While we will be spending some time looking at what might cause avoidant/narcissistic tendencies and covert abuse in intimate partner relationships—as well as how it expresses and is experienced—we will be spending the majority of our time together diving deep into the relational patterns of over-functioning and caretaking/rescuing/fixing that often accompany covert abuse.
We will also gather tools for coping, for self-understanding and self-love, and for doing the required inner work to begin healing these patterns. By focusing on the things we can change and heal—our patterns, our bodies, our minds, and our hearts, the cornerstones of our time in community will be centered around restoring empowerment while navigating self-responsibility and self-healing.
This circle will be carefully curated to be an inclusive and trauma responsive container that is “safe enough” for us to do the work. We will also be very intentional about how we open and close our time together, with movement, ritual, and grounding practices.
Please bring a journal and a pen, as well as a packed lunch. Tea, coffee, and snacks will be provided throughout the day.
Recommended Books for the Micro-Retreat:
Was it Even Abuse: Restoring Clarity After Covert Abuse by Emma Rose Byham
Healing From a Narcissistic Relationship: A Caretaker’s Guide to Recovery, Empowerment, & Transformation by Margalis Fjelstad
The Wound Makes the Medicine by Pixie Lighthorse
Refund and Cancellation Policy:
There will be no refunds offered for this workshop. If you are unable to attend for any reason, we ask that you offer your spot to someone else, perhaps a friend, family member, or someone on the waiting list.
Finding Freedom, Sanity, & Healing After Covert Abuse—Micro-retreat with Hilary
Sunday, February 18th, from 9A-5P
Location: Indwelling Community Room
Investment: $75
If you have ever been in a relationship with someone or ended a relationship with someone who exhibited abusive, avoidant, and narcissistic behavior, it can be extremely isolating and hard to know how exactly to move forward in your healing process. The layers are complex and often include coming to terms with not only the abuse, but also navigating past trauma, childhood conditioning, and a reckoning with our relational patterns—all whilst trying to heal from confusion, heartbreak, and trauma symptoms (and live our lives!).
Covert abuse expresses on a spectrum and could include:
Lack of empathy
Jealousy
Entitlement: feeling superior and deserving of special treatment while treating others with minimal regard
Unpredictable erratic moods: angry outbursts, yelling and swearing, name calling
The silent treatment: as punishment or to create pressure
Controlling behavior: manipulation or aggression
Inconsistency: hot and cold behavior—creating uncertainty, insecurity, and imbalance
Gas lighting and crazy making
Cheating and betrayal: seeking validation outside of the relationship
Future faking: weaponizing your desire to have a future with them, not following through on commitments, making promises they have no intention of keeping, creating the illusion of high investment
Love bombing: idealizing you, overwhelming you with adoration to gain power over you
Breadcrumbing: offering intermittent small morsels of attention or affection amidst the abuse
Blame-shifting: a belief that others are the cause of their behavior, getting upset with you for reacting to their mistreatment, inability to accept accountability, defensiveness
Sabotage
Discarding: emotional withdrawal, abrupt or cruel termination of the relationship
In this trauma conscious workshop, we will circle together and explore the recovery process of healing from covert abuse through body-based, depth psychological, and spiritual modalities in a holistic all-hands-on-deck approach.
While we will be spending some time looking at what might cause avoidant/narcissistic tendencies and covert abuse in intimate partner relationships—as well as how it expresses and is experienced—we will be spending the majority of our time together diving deep into the relational patterns of over-functioning and caretaking/rescuing/fixing that often accompany covert abuse.
We will also gather tools for coping, for self-understanding and self-love, and for doing the required inner work to begin healing these patterns. By focusing on the things we can change and heal—our patterns, our bodies, our minds, and our hearts, the cornerstones of our time in community will be centered around restoring empowerment while navigating self-responsibility and self-healing.
This circle will be carefully curated to be an inclusive and trauma responsive container that is “safe enough” for us to do the work. We will also be very intentional about how we open and close our time together, with movement, ritual, and grounding practices.
Please bring a journal and a pen, as well as a packed lunch. Tea, coffee, and snacks will be provided throughout the day.
Recommended Books for the Micro-Retreat:
Was it Even Abuse: Restoring Clarity After Covert Abuse by Emma Rose Byham
Healing From a Narcissistic Relationship: A Caretaker’s Guide to Recovery, Empowerment, & Transformation by Margalis Fjelstad
The Wound Makes the Medicine by Pixie Lighthorse
Refund and Cancellation Policy:
There will be no refunds offered for this workshop. If you are unable to attend for any reason, we ask that you offer your spot to someone else, perhaps a friend, family member, or someone on the waiting list.
Finding Freedom, Sanity, & Healing After Covert Abuse—Micro-retreat with Hilary
Sunday, February 18th, from 9A-5P
Location: Indwelling Community Room
Investment: $75
If you have ever been in a relationship with someone or ended a relationship with someone who exhibited abusive, avoidant, and narcissistic behavior, it can be extremely isolating and hard to know how exactly to move forward in your healing process. The layers are complex and often include coming to terms with not only the abuse, but also navigating past trauma, childhood conditioning, and a reckoning with our relational patterns—all whilst trying to heal from confusion, heartbreak, and trauma symptoms (and live our lives!).
Covert abuse expresses on a spectrum and could include:
Lack of empathy
Jealousy
Entitlement: feeling superior and deserving of special treatment while treating others with minimal regard
Unpredictable erratic moods: angry outbursts, yelling and swearing, name calling
The silent treatment: as punishment or to create pressure
Controlling behavior: manipulation or aggression
Inconsistency: hot and cold behavior—creating uncertainty, insecurity, and imbalance
Gas lighting and crazy making
Cheating and betrayal: seeking validation outside of the relationship
Future faking: weaponizing your desire to have a future with them, not following through on commitments, making promises they have no intention of keeping, creating the illusion of high investment
Love bombing: idealizing you, overwhelming you with adoration to gain power over you
Breadcrumbing: offering intermittent small morsels of attention or affection amidst the abuse
Blame-shifting: a belief that others are the cause of their behavior, getting upset with you for reacting to their mistreatment, inability to accept accountability, defensiveness
Sabotage
Discarding: emotional withdrawal, abrupt or cruel termination of the relationship
In this trauma conscious workshop, we will circle together and explore the recovery process of healing from covert abuse through body-based, depth psychological, and spiritual modalities in a holistic all-hands-on-deck approach.
While we will be spending some time looking at what might cause avoidant/narcissistic tendencies and covert abuse in intimate partner relationships—as well as how it expresses and is experienced—we will be spending the majority of our time together diving deep into the relational patterns of over-functioning and caretaking/rescuing/fixing that often accompany covert abuse.
We will also gather tools for coping, for self-understanding and self-love, and for doing the required inner work to begin healing these patterns. By focusing on the things we can change and heal—our patterns, our bodies, our minds, and our hearts, the cornerstones of our time in community will be centered around restoring empowerment while navigating self-responsibility and self-healing.
This circle will be carefully curated to be an inclusive and trauma responsive container that is “safe enough” for us to do the work. We will also be very intentional about how we open and close our time together, with movement, ritual, and grounding practices.
Please bring a journal and a pen, as well as a packed lunch. Tea, coffee, and snacks will be provided throughout the day.
Recommended Books for the Micro-Retreat:
Was it Even Abuse: Restoring Clarity After Covert Abuse by Emma Rose Byham
Healing From a Narcissistic Relationship: A Caretaker’s Guide to Recovery, Empowerment, & Transformation by Margalis Fjelstad
The Wound Makes the Medicine by Pixie Lighthorse
Refund and Cancellation Policy:
There will be no refunds offered for this workshop. If you are unable to attend for any reason, we ask that you offer your spot to someone else, perhaps a friend, family member, or someone on the waiting list.