Healing Hearts at Indwelling
Healing Hearts is a passion project for Hilary. As a survivor of narcissistic and covert abuse she is keenly aware of the need for safe spaces, advocacy, awareness, and healing on this topic.
featured on the “From Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic relationships” Podcast.
Episode 47. Was Any Of It Real? Signs You've Been Deceived In A Narcissistic Relationship & How To Finally Understand The Heartbreak With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde (Part 1)
Listen to Episode 47 Here
Episode 48. How Narcissists Use Sex As Manipulation & Control In Toxic Relationships With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde (Part 2)
Listen to Episode 48 Here
Narcissistic and covert abuse
Narcissistic and covert abuse are forms of abuse that may not leave marks in the traditional sense, but that definitely leave damaging imprints on our psyches, hearts, lives, and souls.
Narcissistic abuse is defined as intentional deception and manipulation of a person for purposes of extraction and control.
Narcissistic and covert abuse might include verbal abuse, psychological abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, financial abuse, and spiritual abuse. Victims and survivors may experience gaslighting, crazymaking, putdowns, yelling and swearing, aggression, volatility, love bombing, future faking, isolation, betrayal, being cheated on, and ongoing cycles of abusive behavior which create confusion, cognitive dissonance, and the trauma bond. These forms of abuse are often difficult to detect and are notoriously difficult to heal from.
Healing
Healing from narcissistic and covert abuse is a deeply personal and transformative process. It can be lengthy, confusing, and isolating.
Due to the deception and control in these types of relationships, healing requires a holistic approach that addresses the physiological components of the trauma bond, the addiction to the highs and lows of the abuse cycle, identifying core wounds that may make one susceptible to ending up with a predatory personality, as well as untangling one’s sense of lovability and worthiness from the abuser.
Through sacred circles and casual gatherings our aim is to offer proper validation, support, and care in community so that we may heal together.
Gathering together in service of our own healing is a radical act that is not only life affirming but is also an opportunity to reclaim what has been lost, to feel what needs to be felt, to cultivate self-compassion, to be witnessed, and to ultimately grow relationships with ourselves and others that are healthy and nurturing.
Healing Hearts Opportunities
Monthly Casual Gatherings
Optional WhatsApp group membership for ongoing support.
Email hello@indwellingduluth.com for more information
Healing Hearts & Sacred Sauna
at The Well Co.
Fall & Winter 2024/2025
Healing Hearts Intensive
w. Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde
Work one on one with Hilary around healing from narcissistic & covert abuse.